Feb 24 2023 × 76 notes

new followers!!!

defo feel free to send asks about trans things or queer things, i love writing to a prompt or putting out specific stuff when asked!

i have written a lot of fanfic under the name DictionaryWrites, and now i write a lot of original fiction featuring queer, disabled, and transmasculine characters!

you can check out my writing in a big directory here, where there’s over 200 short stories available, many of them erotica, most of them gay

and i also have a historical fantasy romance novel called Heart of Stone between an ADHD vampire and his very autistic secretary. it’s super slowburn with lots of slice of life! check it out on goodreads

#musings
Jul 21 2023 × 136,723 notes
ladydrace

Has anyone else noticed how, when you have a chronic condition of some kind, that there’s always the basic assumption from people around you that you’re not already doing everything you can?

squidsqueen

It’s all about the illusion of control. People who are healthy like to believe they can always keep being healthy if they do the right things. They don’t want to think about how good people get struck with terrible circumstances for no reason. So they keep assuming that if they got sick, they could do something to make it better. And if you’re still sick, that must mean you’ve done something wrong or not done enough.

atalantapendrag

Nail. Head. The same attitude can be seen in how a lot of people talk about poverty.

queeranarchism

And about being fat (which isn’t a bad thing at all, but people act like it is).

They also like to tell themselves that if they poor/sick/etc, they would have amazing willpower to do everything right, wouldn’t ever slack off or give up, wouldn’t prioritize pleasure.. when in reality (1) that wouldn’t fix the problem, (2) nobody can do that and (3) that’s a terrible way to live and we shouldn’t push people to live like that.

I have talked before about how being okay with your own vulnerability and mortality and flawlessness is a prerequisite for acting like a decent person and this is a huge example of that.

Jul 21 2023 × 14,395 notes
laurelindorenan

i get kidnapped by a rich creep and he does the whole "have dinner with me wearing this specific dress (or die)" thing and i'm like okay lol let's see the dress and it turns out the dress doesn't fit me because the loser just thought he could grab any old low-cut red dress off the rack because he's a man and so i have to explain that there are very very few dresses that actually fit my weird proportions and so we take the fancy dinner to go and spend four hours dress shopping and then sometime around dress #27 i make my daring escape and he doesn't even bother to pursue me because he's so tired of shopping

unfavorableinstigation

drharleyquinn-medicinewoman: honestly it's kind of offensive that in all his weird obsessive stalking he never learned your measurements in order to make you the perfect bespoke gown that flattered your eyes. you deserve better.ALT
laurelindorenan (OP): @drharleyquinn-medicinewoman I was thinking as I was writing this post "hmm is this man creepy enough to know my measurements?" and I decided no. he wouldn't think it was important, because he doesn't know the first thing about tailoring. he's kind of pathetic that wayALT

bargain basement shit tier creep doesn't even know your measurements from watching you in his van for months, this is a red flag ladies!!! 😫❌🚨🚨🚨💅

Jul 21 2023 × 7,955 notes
moon-pepper

Good time for a periodic reminder that "butch" does not mean "has muscles" and it does not mean "sidebuzz haircut" and if you look at a cartoon girl who wears makeup and skirts and high heels and decide she's butch purely on the virtue of "she's kind of buff" or "she's got short hair" or "she's rude to men" or "she knows how to fight" then you need to delete futchscale.png off your hard drive and talk to an actual butch for once in your life

Jul 21 2023 × 64,109 notes
afeelgoodblog

Because sometimes we all just need to see a guy head-bump a beautiful Beluga whale

candidlyautistic

Note: that is not a lumberjack!!! Most likely it is a domesticated marine biologist, possibly a domesticated fisherman, (you can tell because it has been clothed in wool, which stays warm when wet, so it is is clearly well cared for).

While this may be appropriate enrichment for your DOMESTICATED and WELL TRAINED marine biologist or fisherman, please remember that lumberjacks may be tame, but are not domesticated. They are still wild, and they absolutely will freak out if they see you swimming around in their forests.

vanshira

did you write this notice for the belugas or

candidlyautistic

Who else would I write it for? It’s not like orcas care about ethical wildlife photography.